I’ll Reject You Right Back

I’ll take all the no’s in the world on my way to the top, because I know the one time I’ll never hear “no” again is when someone asks me if I’m capable of reaching my goals.

Ever since I was young, my mom told me I could talk a poor man out of his last penny. Not to toot my own horn or anything, but I’m pretty personable and can strike up a conversation with virtually anyone.

When I started my professional job hunt, I went to countless interviews without any returned calls or job offers. I get it, I’m a college student still, and I don’t have any experience– But I outwork anyone else around my age and apparently that wasn’t good enough.

I could’ve stopped looking, half-assed my pursuit for a career, or waited until I graduated to get my name out there. But instead I kept going, knowing that eventually an employer would take a chance on me and I’d succeed in all that I do.

Thankfully, I was right, and was offered a full-time position and I’ve been fortunate enough to have a boss who has stood by me through the ups and downs of my first career. Let’s just say juggling being 21, senior year in college, and a full-time career isn’t exactly a walk in the park.

I got so close to quitting, but fortunately my boss called me on my BS and stopped me from making what would’ve been the worst decision of my life.

Ever since that moment of idiocy, I haven’t questioned my job once.

Being Rejected

 Don’t get me wrong, my job gets tough sometimes. When I was in sales I had doors shut in my face, prematurely locked when they saw me coming, and I’ve been thrown out of businesses. I’ve visited 60 businesses in a day just to get to 61 and finally get my “yes,” but you know what? It’s that 61st door that kept me going.

Now that I’m in recruiting, I make around 500+ phone calls a week, I maybe get to talk to 90 of them (the rest are unreturned voicemails or people hanging up on me as soon as they hear my voice,) and I book about 80 for an interview. People hang up on me, never return my calls, they can be rude, or tell me to leave them alone. But when we hire a stud candidate out of those 80 people who interviewed and I know that they now have the opportunity to work in a great culture with endless paychecks and the type of growth and advancement I’ve never seen before: I feel accomplished, excited, and ready to face 100+ more “nos.”

Here’s the thing, rejection is part of life. Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to want to talk to you, and you’re not going to succeed in every day life. But I’ll do whatever it takes to find my success– I’ll take all the no’s I need to hear because I know that the one time I’ll never hear it is when someone asks me if I’m capable of reaching my goals.

Being the “Rejecter”

Talking about facing rejection in order to reach the top brings me to one of the most important lessons I’ve learned since I’ve stepped foot in the shark tank that is the world of biz.

If you’re going to let yourself face all of this rejection on the way to the top; don’t be afraid to reject them right back.

I am the queen of spreading myself to thin. I not only want to do everything, but I want to do it all at once. I’m always so afraid to disappoint people and I’ll take on whatever they ask me to. I used to make it a priority to help everyone else before I helped myself because I wanted to make sure my co-workers and friends knew I was there for them no matter what. I noticed myself slipping in all areas, I tried to be this super woman, but instead I couldn’t do anything right and I was letting myself head down a slippery slope.

So here’s the thing: You can do anything you want, but you cannot do everything you want (at least not at once.)

Ever hear the phrase “Your eyes are bigger than your stomach?” The same applies to goals. Yes, I agree you need to set high goals for yourself, but it takes 100% commitment in order to make yourself successful in any area of life. Whether it’s your career, school, sports, relationships, friendships, etc. You cannot expect to be successful if you’re not giving everything you’ve got. So list out the tasks you have and order them by priority– check them off one at a time and let yourself succeed.

Someone once told me your 20’s are meant to be your selfish years, and for once in my life I’m going to say no to everyone around me and start saying “yes” to myself. I will not apologize for choosing to focus on me, and neither should you.

You are under no obligation to give yourself up to the rest of the world, so get selfish, focus on yourself and reject what doesn’t serve you or help you grow. The right people will understand and be there for support– just don’t burn anyone on your journey upward because you never know with whom you’re going to have share the top of the mountain.

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