It’s officially hitting me – everyone is back in school and I’m not there. Softball is in full-swing *pun intended* & the back to school deals are coming to an end because most universities have been in session for about a week or two.
I don’t miss college at all (I never really immersed myself into the “college culture”) but I can’t help but look back on my college experience.
I’ve never really been the kind of person that fit in. I was good at making friends, but more often found myself feeling left out and awkward than anything else.
So when I started working full-time in a business professional environment my senior year I found that there were really only two kinds of people: The people who encouraged my ambition (they’re still around) & the people who mocked me, told me I had “the rest of my life to grow up.” These people made fun of me constantly, mocked me for my hard work, and would go out of their way to tell me that I should give up now because when I fail it would just end up hurting.
I’d give you a list of those people – but it’s long, lengthy, and quite frankly irrelevant.
I’m a young 20-something & I’m constantly being badgered by people about how I’m wasting “the best years of my life” because I work long hours and don’t go out to the bars every weekend. But my dreams don’t fit into a 9-5 time frame, so why would my work ethic?
If you want to settle for having already lived through the best years of your life instead of doing whatever it takes to make the year you’re in now better than the year before (and keep this cycle going) – then that’s fine. But that’s not me anymore.
I used to care way too much about what people thought of me. I prioritized a made up social standing in high school and chose to pity myself instead of work hard. Eventually I got tired of failing and remembered something my dad said to me growing up.
“…there’s always going to be someone out there that’s better than you because they’re out working you.”
When you finally have the realization that you won’t ever be the best unless you out work everyone around you – your life will change.
I love my job and enjoy what I do because when I walked into this business over a year ago I recognized the opportunity and I made a promise to myself to give it everything I had until I reached the top. So yes, I chose my growing career over a night at the bar & I chose to improve myself instead of stay friends with people who didn’t believe in me, but that’s not “throwing away the best years of my life.” It’s an investment and I’m making it.
p.s. To the people who mocked and doubted me:
You’re in for a rude awakening when you see I’m constantly living the best years of my life while you’re in the background feeling nostalgic for yours.
Work hard now, play hard later.